By Suzanne Carré
With all the hype over the “Twilight Saga” and the popular series “True Blood,” it is necessary to ask the question—what is it with the vampire thing? Why, it’s the sex, of course—importantly, it’s the sex we want (but don’t know how to get). Recently, the Fox Sexpert gave her take on the irresistible quality of vampire sex. So here’s a look at the major points she discussed.
Vampires are hot.
Ever since Bela Lugosi interpreted how vampires behave, for stage and film, the bad boys of the preternatural domain have had male leads every woman wants to take to bed. The sex appeal of the vampire is in the perfect body combined with the sultry looks that leave you weak in the knees. Add to that, the smoldering sexual tension in their “I can do anything” attitude, so with one come-hither glance, we are undressing our minds.
It’s because we want to be just like vampires and be free with our sexuality. Vampires are ever so good at getting away with everything society calls bad. The sexual awakening of my mortal character forms the important theme in my novel, from her interpretation of “good sex” to the total hedonism of the vampires, she transforms using the vampire manuals of love.
Vampire eroticism, and extensions into vampire sexuality, are usually based on human sex with a twist. Writers of fiction and dramas tend to leave the sex details out, except to get ratings, because it might actually disappoint us when too much is told, especially when we realize—is that all vampires do!
The mystic of not showing too much excites teens and readers of romance because this is the limit of expectation. Yes, it charges our imaginations but only to need more and more of those vampires.
Vampires are kinky.
Only if you have a problem with sex. I think the only thing kinky about vampires is our perverted concept of what sex might be like if you didn’t have to explain your bedroom activities to your mother. As I said before, it’s the lack of imagination that restricts vampires to enact our sexual hang-ups. We have some strange belief that all creatures, great and small under our domination, must have sex the same way as we do. I just don’t know how we’ve survived this long, as a species, when even man’s best friend can’t be trained to do it missionary style.
The sex of vampires should be sex for there needs, to satisfy them, not us. The range the imagination then extends, is not down the garden path to some Freudian fetish. In my novel I explore all the possibilities of sex, keeping it non-human, to give my vampires something to look forward to after midnight. The discovery of the vampire sexual habits shocks my mortal character Marie because everything she thought sex was instantly evaporates. Her confrontation with vampire sexuality determines how much she fights the female vampires, who seem to have everything their sexual way. Are vampires kinky in my novel—the females conclude only the humans are.
Then what about the fangs or the bite and sex? Well, that leads to the next point.
The attraction of S&M.
Rough sex is how we interpret sex free of all inhibitions. Romans started the whole crazy notion that hurting your partner somehow liberated you from sexual constraints. The Western World founded it’s fear of sex on the uncontrollable urge to lash out (pun intended) with “bad sex.” And then we have to thank the Victorians, who had so many sexual problems there isn’t enough space on the web to list them all, where punishment somehow “paid” for all the deviant feelings associated with our untamed sexuality.
Vampires are right, humans have the dullest and most boring sex in the universe, because we need violence to spice it up. The way vampires are depicted certainly feeds into all the primal fears of sex and gives absolution to those frustrations. It is confirmed with the way we mix fangs and sex with blood and sex. That’s why we can’t get enough of those beasts who command our supplication into being their victims. We want to separate ourselves from the conflict of sex and they take control for us.
So does the bite hurt? Well, the vampires aren’t into pain like we humans are. They consider the bite as the ultimate kiss and so special a sexual experience, the vampire bite even has its own version of foreplay.
Vampires scare us.
They do initially but I think it’s more intrigue than fear. Our brains have a primitive core to send out panic signals so we run from danger but the thinking part of the brain tends to interpret these chemicals as sex. So yes, your body is on alert, but seconds later our brain starts asking questions. Now you can’t run from a sexy brute of a vampire (no matter your sexual inclinations). It’s then that the vampire has command of us.
So it doesn’t matter how much of a heart-stopper the vampire was in those first crucial seconds—when the vampire springs from the shadows and targets the jugular! No, after a few seconds, your heart regains its beat and now the vampire has got your heart-a-fluttering. You watch them in ecstasy, biting their victim, and you’re thinking—yeah baby—right here—give it to me!
Vampires tease us.
The original blog talked about the allure of sex without the details to really let our imaginations run free. This fiction hook to suggest sex and leave the rest to you works to set a tempo of intrigue. It is a mixture of sexual taboo and no imagination that makes vampire sex the unspoken pleasure. It is this huh-hush that makes it so exciting. With vampire sex, it’s a case of tell me more—tell me more.
Vampires always do the walk of shame.
The way a vampire slinks away before dawn, after the dirty deed, it might appear this way. It serves our best interests to have a courier for our sins, so we wake innocent. But no, absolutely no. Shame is a curse on humans not vampires. Think about it. How can an immortal hedonist ever feel any shame for the fun they have every night, forever?
What I think is more erotic is how vampires find us in our beds, totally vulnerable in our sleep, and they have control of us—mind, body, and soul. We are at their complete mercy and that’s how we want it. In our dreams we can be any sexual entity we want and there is no price to pay.
Do vampires do us a favor by leaving well before daybreak? I think not. If you wake with a perfect body snuggled against you, and your memories are for the wildest sex you didn’t know you could imagine, then what’s the point in asking—was it as good for you?
If you are one of those very fortunate few to wake up knowing you had a vampire with you last night, then cherish the memory. Think vampire and don’t regret the experience. Now, all you have to do is hope you vampire comes back.
Vampires make us beg.
These nocturnal sexy beasts have it all and they offer it to us for the price of a little blood. How can we ever resist? Vampires captivate us with their looks. They intrigue us when conquering our innermost fears, and then they represent pure, unrestricted lust. They offer pleasure and they don’t waste time giving it. This is the pure vampire sexuality unleashed, and now the vampire has us on our knees.
When we have the vampire with us, our bodies entwined, are we begging for life, death, or an eternal existence? When you’re at the pinnacle of sensations you’re only begging for more—more—more!
Vampires never die.
We yearn to be the vampire so we will never die. We are jealous of the vampire because they live forever. It is a strange paradox that in so many movies we have to kill the vampire to save the dumb blonde from immortality. It is an insight into our fear of leaping into the unknown, when writers create vampires bored with eternity who can’t wait to be human. It is testimony to our sense of superiority when we can hunt down and destroy the supernatural vampire.
Basically it’s about power that translates into sex. It’s the control of life and death, particularly the vampire who does nothing but hiss when staked that gives us the sexual feelings. In witch hunt manuals, when vampires were considered witches, the staked vampire usually dies with an obvious erection. This power seals in the thrill of death and sex. We destroy what we create in order that we might control everything, especially the power of sex in the vampire.
And to this list, Moonlight adds two more sexy ideas.
Vampires are skilled.
It’s not just about the sexual experience but also the knowledge they collate about sex in their manuals of love. Vampires know what love is and write about the feeling in great depth to instruct others of their kind. To improve the lovemaking, vampire connect their minds, making their bodies become one in sensation, so they never have to ask if they got the right spot. Communicating their sexual feelings, to amplify the sensations through psychic sex, and they have mastered the ultimate in pleasure.
And with us? Do not fear, the vampire will extend their power to you in your dreams, and make you a perfect lover with them.
Vampires are romantic.
Given vampires have the looks to make us swoon, the power to control our bodies, and the knowledge to love so perfectly—how can vampires be anything but romantic? We also romance with the question, what would perfect love look and feel like? We answer with the vampire. They are what we want in the deepest and darkest recesses of our minds. They represent the power we covet to free us from our restraints in sex and to liberate our potential in love. To the vampire we are indebted forever.
Sweet dreams.
So after that—do I need to ask if vampires will ever lose their sex appeal?
Next I want to explore more of the raw vampire sexuality that has us so captivated.
