By Suzanne Carré

If ever there is danger associated with sex, it is the notorious sexual cannibalism of spiders. The Black Widow spider earns her name from the reputation of eating her mates after he’s had his way with her (well at least he got lucky—even if it’s only once). Even more “man-eating” are the orb-weavers (their flat, wheel-like webs are the classic spider webs of art), because the females more often practice pre-insemination sexual cannibalism—so the male loses his life before his virginity! Those lucky males that survive to fertilize, do it very fast, and are often digested for desert.

The reasons for spiders eating the males has been debated by biologists for well over a century, with the philosophy—well, he’d die anyway so at least he’s contributing to the feeding of his brood—which is crazy because in most cases of spider sex, he only gets to fertilize half her eggs anyway. Obviously, most male spiders don’t agree with the naturalists, otherwise the males of several species wouldn’t bother with counter measures and stealthy tricks to evade the dinner plate. One original method used by some spiders is bondage, not only make her safe to approach, but hold his partner for as long as he wants her.

Sex Spider Style

But first we need to know how spiders do it in order to understand the bondage session. Just outside their fangs, spiders have a pair of feelers called pedipalps (feeler feet). On the last molt, the male’s pedipalps develop swollen ends resembling boxing gloves. These are now equipped with sperm storage and become his copulatory organs (not true penises). He fills both with sperm by first ejaculating on a special silk mat constructed for the purpose. This can take hours, so in the case of spiders, the male masturbates first, then goes off to find a partner with a fist full of goodies. He needs to be prepared because he often doesn’t have the time when in a dangerous embrace. Spiders have the kinkiest sex—not only is it very daring, and life-threatening, but he has to use his fists to excite and fertilize her.

Flower Spiders

So now we can see the need for spider bondage. The most famous of this group are the flower spiders. Flower spiders get their name because they are often found in flowers. They are sometimes called crab spiders because they look like the crustacean and have the habit of walking sideways too. But flower spiders are cute, most are less than 10mm (or less than ½ inch) across so they sit pretty on a fingernail, and they don’t use their silk for building webs but sex.

The males of certain species wrap the legs and head of their larger mates in a kind of bridal veil and secure her to the ground. Because she can break the silk binds after the mating session, then it seems she willing plays the game, so it is not a case of rape. Once he has her where and how he wants her, he crawls under her belly facing her vagina, inserts his pedipalps, and pumps his sperm into her. The male’s palps are designed so perfectly to fit only into the female of his species—lock and key style. With the luxury of bondage, the male takes his time, where mating sessions can last up to 3 hours and he changes “hands” (possibly recharging them on the job) as much as twenty times. When he’s had his fun, he leaves her to “undress” from the silk gown he wrapped her in. He not only lives to mate again but he has the chance to experience a copulation session unrivaled in the spider world.

Some species of the orb web spiders (mentioned above) also tie up their mistresses in weak bonds designed mainly for show. But in these cases, the maidens of the web only play willing for a brief encounter, usually only enough time for him to insert one palp once. When she shows signs of boredom, he escapes fast, to live and love again.

Vampire Bondage

Spiders are wonderful—true vampires of the natural world. Not only do they have an impressive pair of fangs but they drink the blood of their victims. And this is possibly all they have in common with supernatural vampires. Sexually, the bedroom encounters the vampire has doesn’t threaten their existence, especially not the male’s. But since we are talking about bondage then there is one case for vampires were bondage is necessary.

When a male vampire finds his true love in a mortal woman, he makes her immortal with the ultimate vampire kissthe bite—and together they both change physically, the changes being irreversible. The process of vampire marriage takes time, the conversion slow while her body becomes vampire. To ensure the greatest success rate for the male change, the nuptials require the pair to stay coupled for the whole ceremony. Vampires use a special pair of marriage belts that interlock and keep the couple together physically so they will stay together emotionally forever.

Although vampire bondage is beyond practice use, then to experience bondage, do it spider style—throw away those handcuffs (you probably lost the keys years ago, on purpose) and tie up your partner with silk. Gently darling, this is meant to be fun.