By Suzanne Carré

Sex is sex—isn’t it? Unfortunately no. We define sex, usually couples, according to who practices the act—opposite or same sex. We catalog the acts in minute detail according to the type—auto-erotic or foreplay—or what part of the body the act entails—oral sex or intercourse. It is important to distinguish the posture of the body—standing, siting, or reclined—and whether one or both are positioned the same way. Within each group, techniques are given special names and the list goes on. If that’s not confusing enough, the list will likely increase as discoveries are made in our social-sexual history and advances made in physiology.

Well, so much for labels because society still tends to confine sex to what is acceptable and “proper.” Increasingly, respect for an individual’s lifestyle has blurred the boundaries drawn up by convention but there are still prejudices and social pressures. Sex might be what we seek as preferred physical pleasure but taboos restrain us as to how much pleasure we can obtain and what parts of our bodies we can use and when.

Vampire Style

Vampires are not very helpful when it comes to simplifying sex, because they do not see it as a personal choice. They don’t label with exacting detail the various forms of sexual activity, in that they recognize only the broadest of categories—the embrace and the kiss. Instead, vampires define sex according to how and why the sexual act is enacted without concern for where on the body and with whom.  By considering sex by its use then sex becomes functional to vampires, so their society embraces and not only celebrates sex, because certain social exchanges demand sex.

Use also has wider implications in that giving sex to purpose, not preference, eliminates any stigma applied to the choice of an individual. Vampires extinguish prejudices created by expectation, and in their sexual culture they don’t persecute an individual for having a preferred sexual orientation. They don’t have labels for the participants in any given activity when some interactions require opposites and others are same gender only. Vampire sexuality is very complex accordingly, and when it is because of necessity not taste, it is fair to say we don’t have any sexual categories for these sexy beasts. What they do between the sheets after midnight is as vampires call it—sex and only sex.

Lets talk about sex

Here I am only interested in vampire sex. Vampires need sex, depending on the function of the interaction, and they also want sex, based on their individual sexual appetite. Sex is not just pleasure but essential for their social interactions and in some cases it is vital sex based on their biology. There are reasons for sex beyond procreation, benefits to sex beyond the natural drive, required sex for existing and healing, and sexual potential beyond the physical realm.

So now I need to define sex as it has never been defined before.

Sex is Pure Physical

Sex is fundamentally the opposite to love for vampires. Love is purely emotional and sex is purely physical. Vampires don’t see a need for love to establish sex and likewise determine any “feelings of love” generated by the sexual experience are not love at all. A relationship started with sex is sure to fail unless love is cultivated because they consider the false emotions associated with sex are short-lived and unreliable. For vampires, sex must be kept pure by not expecting love to arise from it.

Sex is also not a measure of faithfulness. Providing the exchange is pure sex, no emotional charge and no impulse by lust, then indulging outside a bond does not constitute cheating. In my novel Vampire Sexual Secrets, Vincent falls from grace when he has a fleeting affair with his ex-wife. After admitting his infidelity, he his charged by the vampires of lust and illusions to love, and punished accordingly. The transgression of sex derives no criticism by the female vampires.

Sex is Relative

Vampire sex is relative to its use. The meaning of sex for vampires is a matter of the benefit it yields. Vampires consider two main types of sex—fun sex and necessary sex.

Fun sex describes seeking pleasure sensations, and includes:

  • Sex just for fun.
  • Serious sex, shared only between experienced  lovers.
  • Private sex, only for trusting lovers.
  • Public sex or the sex expected between casual partners.
  • Proper sex to describe the sex allowed to a male not yet accepted by females.

While necessary sex is a collective term for sex with a specific purpose. The reasons for sex determines the priority of the sexual act:

  • Required sex keeps the psychological balance and heals.
  • Reproductive sex, being very distinctive for vampires, is only used in the mating ritual.

Sex is Female not Male

Just as love is the domain of males, females rule in sex. Sex in the purest sense is a female factor and only the females crave and seek sex without any romance. The reason is survival. The females hunt for blood and can’t afford to fall in love with any of the humans they harvest for food. If the sex after midnight they rely on to feed generated love feelings, dedication and devotion toward the donor would cause the the vampire to starve. And if she survived the hunt without pining away for her lover’s neck, the female wouldn’t be able to share blood with a male, or another female for that matter, and not suffer the consequences of love. It is therefore the necessity of sex that gives the female control so she can function night after night—forever.

These are the basic differences between love and sex according to the vampires. Next, I will look at what makes sex just sex for vampires even though it has very special roles to play.

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