By Suzanne Carré

Fun sex depends on the mutual respect forming the conditions for private and public sex. Any sexual activity you share with your lover but would not share openly with another person, to whom you are not intimate, is private sex. An act of private sex could be anything, even a simple kiss on the lips if you reserve the kiss for certain people. Because of our propensity to shamefully hide sex, most human sexual activities are by vampire standards private.

Private sex is not necessarily conducted in private quarters. It is also not restricted to one person or group. Single vampires can have multiple lovers with the most intimate being their favorites. The sexual activities shared within each group differ according to the level of trust for each partner. So a couple sharing private sex may be alone or with other couples. If the couples don’t share between them, then each pair are engaged in private sex regardless of the company they keep.

Vampires demonstrate respect so being in a room surrounded by others is not a problem, they just ignore them, so it doesn’t hinder any private sex they share. If the sexual activities extend to group activities, then provided the extra-couple sex is limited to those of the group and not just any casual partner, this sex is also private. For example, a pair of vampires might couple with certain of the group, then the sex is still private irrespective of there being more than two involved or even at the same time.

Public Sex

In contrast, sex considered by vampires as acceptable with any individual is public sex. Public or common sex denotes any practice not reserved for lovers. To vampires it is important to define the sex of a “one-night’s stand” as opposed to lovemaking shared only with a trusted lover. For vampires, the rules of sex are separate to the rules of love, and so the sex is different when love is absent. This is not to say vampires need love for sex but in recognition that certain sex requires a level of established trust.

Casual sex has it boundaries, and these are strictly adhered to, mainly to guarantee the first time with a new partner is pleasurable and not an incident too embarrassing to remember. The first date of a vampire doesn’t have to be sans-sexual to be meaningful, but the interaction is kept to a level not too exciting, because this is only just the beginning. A first encounter is to get to know the person not their sexual capacity.

Vampires know and expect the sex to get better next time, if they like you, so the preview is tantalizing and certainly not conclusive of everything on offer. Think about public sex in terms of fine cooking, where you don’t put a cream sauce on high heat, because it will boil over, but get it to the right temperature in slow steps. In their manuals of love, the vampires are careful to make the distinction of what is public, and what should never be made public, in terms of sex.

In as far as sex is for fun, the level of trust continues to define what sex takes place where and why. Next I look at what vampires consider proper sex and later why sex is really just for fun.

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