By Suzanne Carré

All vampire kissing techniques have a specific purpose and the pressing kiss is no exception. We have an equivalent in the “peck on the cheek” in all its non-sexual or more importantly non-committal variations—but the similarities with the pressing kiss of vampires stops there. The pressing kiss is not a perfunctory, sometimes replaced by a kiss in the air, greeting in polite company. Unlike us, the vampires do not treat the non-sexual kisses like the pressing kiss as immature. Also the pressing kiss is not a greeting in itself, the prelude being an approach, touch of the hands, and even words to state your acknowledgment before your lips do their work.

Between  vampires the pressing kiss is offered only to intimates for the purpose of greeting and departing amiably. Many vampires go so far as to exclude all but their lovers in the intimate circle sharing the pressing kiss. Even though the pressing kiss is non-sexual in nature it is nonetheless a very private kiss because its purpose holds a strict social definition.

The pressing kiss is a thoughtful exchange neither requiring sex in its undertaking nor implying permission for sexual activity to follow in its wake. When offered the pressing kiss is not a quick dash to target the face and leave before the recipient realizes your approach. No, the pressing kiss is a leisurely kiss given with intent and savored for all that the personal touch means.

How to Give a Pressing (Kiss)

  • Firstly, relax the lips, because the pressing kiss (as in many vampire kissing techniques) require the lips to be natural not puckered in the knot we represent the kiss to look like.

  • Make eye contact with your intended because the pressing kiss is not an attack on the unsuspecting. If no other physical touch accompanies the pressing kiss, give the eyes enough time to say “hello” and welcome you to the kiss.

  • The pressing kiss is a dry press of the lips to the skin. Do not use wet lips and never use your tongue.

  • Offer the pressing kiss to the face, usually the check but there are no strict rules. Vampires kiss the temples outside the eye region or even kiss the eyelid. Some like to kiss the jawline and preferences abound for the ear lobe or the spot immediately in front of the ear. Remember, this is a kiss to your lover, not someone you just met, so where you place your lips makes a statement of your intimacy.

  • Decide where you will kiss and kiss there. Do not hesitate once you start. Don’t change you mind half-kiss. If some other place takes your fancy then finish one pressing kiss, then offer another by migrating to the next part. The pressing kiss is a kiss with purpose and intent—so don’t be shy once the kiss is started.

  • Make contact and be thoughtful not impatient. The pressing kiss is not a rushed kiss but a moment to muse. If you kiss the ear or anywhere close by, take advantage of this by whispering sweet-nothings. The kiss to the eye is a romantic offering, where the eyes are the windows to the soul, take a brief moment to place the lips here and make a silent connection.

  • How long to kiss? It depends on you and the one you’re kissing. The pressing kiss is not a once step “hi, how are you” before you move on to other more intense kisses. Break the kiss with words of love and thoughtfulness. Return to gaze in the eyes and give another kiss to make your intentions known—you are here because you care, so take whatever time you need.

The pressing kiss starts conversations of love and ends the discussion shared between two lovers in a romantic way. Use the pressing kiss the vampire way to make your heart heard.

The Consolation Kiss

A variation of the pressing kiss when specifically applied to the lips. The consolation kiss is offered when saying sorry in the deepest sense to another intimate for anything that may have hurt them and you recognize has hurt them. Because it is for acknowledging the emotional pain of an intimate, then the vampires do not misuse the consolation kiss as a spicy version of the pressing kiss. Due to the need to connect emotionally with the one suffering, take time to press your lips against theirs and follow with a thoughtful pause. This is a sensitive kiss and demands a sensitive approach.

Next vampire kiss is a psychic kiss called the Virgin Kiss but don’t worry about the name because this kiss has absolutely nothing to do with virgins or keeping your virginity.

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