By Suzanne Carré
Love to vampires is separate to sex. Vampire love has no requirement for sex and no connection to it. As already stated, love is an emotion of the heart, starts from within by preparing the mind, and accepting ourselves emotionally and physically. The idea vampires call pure love is not attached to the whim of fashion, beauty, wealth, and the countless other factors determined by society, as desirable attributes. Love is directed from us to another person and we love them for who they are, not what they are. But this directional transfer, of all the good feelings we have inside, changes our feelings for our loved one. How then do we separate the love from the physical symptoms vampires call sex?
Love is not sexual
Vampires usually have sex on their minds. It is a function of their biology to feed with sex, heal their supernatural powers with sex, develop trust bonds with sex, establish collectives with sex…and yes, just about everything they do by being vampires is done with sex. But it is the need for emotional security, defining a condition separate to sex, and devoid of it, which the vampires have. This pure emotion they call love is above all the sex they share. Pure emotional love is the ultimate feeling and one they make special mention of when describing the seeking of love in their writings. Vampire manuals of love define the properties and the rules of love, giving the most important quality of love—it’s separate to sex.
Sexual drive
Possibly the most confusing aspect of love is the physical indications associated with the feeling. We’re expected to feel light headed and giddy with love. We claim with the racing heartbeat and flush to our cheeks we “feel” love. We can’t eat because our unsettled feelings, and we pine for our loved, calling this condition “love-sickness.” If you complained to a vampire about these and many other related symptoms, they would conclude you need sex real bad. Complaining that’s not what you’re after only confirms to the vampire, you don’t know what you’re talking about when it comes to love and sex.
Vampires have one major advantage over us concerning love and sex. Because they rely so much on sex to merely function as a vampire, then this functional sex they share is independent of their emotions. The separation of physical consequences of sex from the emotional aspects of love comes naturally with a vampire. It has to, it’s a matter of survival. The love they seek to give meaning to their immortality is then so much more special than sex could ever be.
Faithfulness and sexual infidelity
The vampires separate love from sex and that means there is no comparison between faithfulness in love and faithfulness in sex. This is not to say vampires tolerate the philandering of one in a couple simply because sex has no place in love. Vampire do not and are much more stricter than any human society ever has been when it comes to cheating. The idea of taking advantage of a relationship just to control your partner and then indulge in sex with other lovers, is not love by vampire standards. But the making of a mistake is not grounds for destroying love, if indeed it existed. Possibly the only time the sexual infidelity has any grounds for total forgiveness is in rare cases of lust.
Vampire sexuality
Vampire sexuality is very different from any example of sexual behavior as we understand it. In their supernatural world, the vital sex of the feeding ritual prevents a couple remaining sexually honorable because both require sex with others just to survive. Our morality has no place within the preternatural domain. The vampires depend on the rules of love to define infidelity in terms of the loving relationship. Sex shared by the couple is separate to any other sex participated in, for any reason, outside the bond. This special sex is then the only sex to gauge the faithfulness of the partners.
Private sex, and its more personal form of serious sex, is the sex of a couple sharing love. Vampires insist the pair must be in love to indulge in these special forms of sex because they express love physically in the expressions of lovemaking. Conducting an affair and using the expressions with a partner you do not love is grounds for punishment. Provided the cheated partner is willing, and the cheater contrite, the vampires prefer to mend the love that was, in favor of destroying the relationship. In their sexual culture, the vampires consider love too precious to throw away needlessly. To vampires, bad sex does not equate to bad love.
Love is the founding of a relationship and sex forms the physical pleasure shared by the couple. But the sex is certainly not necessary to form and maintain the bond and remains separate to the love. Next is the cost of love in a relationship.
