By Suzanne Carré
After discussing vampire sex in great detail, I need to return to love in order to discuss the differences of opinion we hold with vampires. I introduced love vampire style earlier in this series with only a brief outline of what vampires think of love. If anything can be said—vampires are very different to us in that they believe love is purely emotional and has absolutely nothing to do with sex. We might agree with them and say love is a concern of the heart but we still insist on a link with sex to soften the edges of our fear of pure physical sex. We call the act “lovemaking” even though we are not necessarily in love with our partner (especially someone you’ve just met and the attraction is physical). We call it “paying for love” when the transaction involved the sale of sex only with a broker of sex.
Love + Sex = more Love
Not to vampires. Love to them doesn’t require watering with sex to grow and flourish. The vampires acknowledge the physical requirement to affirm the love in a sexual way and they call this expressing the love. For this reason they call the lovemaking positions the expressions and practice these exclusively in the arena of private sex. To think vampire, it is necessary to understand that sex is not the reason for the love and must not be the condition of it.
Reasons for love
Vampires have very good reasons for love. They live forever and need some compensation of their emotions to mitigate the curse of their kind. Males are biologically programmed for love so they are driven by instinct to find a human and bite her in the ritual of vampire marriage. The bad boys of the supernatural world will claim sexual compatibility is their motive for choosing a wife but they deny sex was the reason. In the letters comprising their manuals of love, many vampire males write of the way they feel the woman and know instantly—she’s the one for eternity.
To “feel” a mortal, vampires do this by emotions not touch. When a male vampire feels a woman, he explores her emotional being, her wants, and her aspirations of love. He knows how she sees and feels loves and then how she will carry this love into the preternatural domain. The motive for loving a woman the male vampire can feel explains why he ignores a population of irresistible mantraps only to fall hopelessly at the feet of a female he cannot ignore emotionally. But the choice he makes in feelings is not trivial, it must be right, after all this marriage is truly a case of happily-ever-after—immortality is forever!
Vampire Sexual Secrets
It is then the inner-self not the physical that vampires seek and find compelling. In my novel, as part of the curse on the vampires, they cannot see the physical component of any being. Vincent complains how he cannot see his mortal lover Marie. When he looks at her, he can only see her feelings and yearns to know the physical reality of her discerned only by touch. She is obsessed by her body image, fearful that she is a less than perfect, and worries over not being attractive enough for Vincent.
In part of her lessons of love, she tries to overcome her insecurities but while trapped in the mortal sphere she is plagued by her imperfect shape. The vampires charge her with suffering from imperfect femininity but their claims are for her attitude, not her body. They can read her mind and know all her misgivings about being female and human.
But it is not only male vampires who need and seek love. In the supernatural world, the wives of vampires have the capacity and requirement for love and they take this into their vampire existence upon marriage. Next is the power of love in the wife of a vampire.
