By Suzanne Carré
Vampires use touch as a way to communicate the most intimate of requests in their relationships. It is the way they prefer to ask for love and sex when the mood is not set, and it is inopportune to use words to describe their feelings or intentions. In part one, I described the function of the hands and how they are used to invite for lovemaking. In this section, the tempo increases to more serious approaches, and finally to asking for sex just for the sake of sex.
Wrist sweep
The wrist sweep is a sign of the heart and in a silent code it makes direct requests for intimacy. Again the hand you touch, and which hand you use, is important here, where the left is the sexiest hand.
How to ask for love with a caress from the wrist.
The one asking runs the tips of their fingers across the others hand. The pass is a single sweep, starting from the wrist, and crosses the top of the hand diagonally. Usually the direction of the sweep is from the thumb and away from the body (it is the same on both hands), but ending on the thumbs is more emotive in the approach being orientated towards the body (that is, tending to the heart).
So what does it all mean?
- Right hand on right hand is primarily non-sexual and simply makes the request to get to know each other better. It is appropriate for first meetings among vampires and between lovers is a test for permission to touch. The usual acceptance is to hold hands (vampire style—see part one).
- Left hand on right or right hand on left are not usual combinations in this silent request. The main reason because they say the same thing and don’t imply more sexual connotations than the pure right hand caress.
- Left hand on left hand. This is the most sexual of all the touching requests. It is an invitation to lust vampire style or in more romantic terms, for lovemaking without restrictions or reservations. This is a hand caress kept by vampires for only their lovers and not used lightly due to the implications of the approach.
Caresses of the cheek
The caress to the cheek is more emotional in context and approach. There are two ways to caress the cheek, the hand used, as well as the side of the face touched, endows the silent request with more potency if the left side is favored.
How to say “hello.”
Using a relaxed hand, gently sweep the fingers from the top of the cheek (just beyond the eyes) to the chin in a single pass. The contact uses the pads of the fingertips only. To vampires this is never sexual and is often a more sensitive way to make your introduction. The intensity of the touch increases with the left hand on the left side of the face, but it never means a sexual request, or intimacy beyond friendship.
How to say “I love you.”
Using the approach of the “hello” touch, but the hand now curls so the tops of the fingertips are used to contact the skin. The twisting of the hand makes a silent appeal for love by demonstrating a level of your vulnerability. To vampires this is the ultimate touch to ask for love and the physical conclusion in lovemaking. It is a touch for lovers only and is not offered to casual acquaintances. In the code of vampire sexual practice, the caress to the face using the curled fingers is a part of private sex only.
Depending on which hand you caress with, and on which side you touch, increases the power of this touch. The highest level is for the left hand on the left cheek. All variations of this personal touch are exclusively for your lover. To vampires this silent approach says “I love you when words cannot describe the love” and the invitation to express the love physically is implied. As a request it asks for total surrender to the feelings held for each other. This caress sets the mood to the highest level so it is definitely appropriate only when you have the opportunity to fulfill the demand.
Asking for sex vampire style
Vampires also acknowledge there are times when the couple understand each other enough that asking for sex void of any romance is permissible and invited. They have several ways to ask this in simple non-offensive touches that do not force the partner to comply. Remember, you might ask for sex but you’re not asking for permission for sex so there must not be any obligation from either in the couple.
How to ask for sex.
- Vampires recline more than we do, so the way they ask reflects the way they live. To ask for sex without any sentiments of romance, they stroke the toes of their partner. This action resembles in many ways the touch across the wrist (being highly sexual in itself) and as with all caresses to ask, the left hand and side is more sexual.
- To modify the vampire request, approach your partner while they are curled on the sofa, or reclined on the bed, so their feet are easily accessible. Any negative reaction is interpreted as a definite no and so the vampire desists or changes tactics.
- A positive response may take many forms but if there is no overwhelming “yes” then a little consideration might be in order. Vampires understand in the art of seduction that sometimes an extra step is necessary and they read their partner’s actions to cue for a little extra play.
- To make the message a little more clear, stroke your fingertips lazily up their leg to the knee, but no further, because you are asking not invading. Once at the knee, a hunting kiss can extend the reach with the lips where the hands are not yet allowed to go.
- If the feet of your partner are inaccessible, use their hands and stroke the fingers in the same way. Running your fingers to their elbow serves an equivalent purpose, and a kiss beyond this boundary works the same way as a kiss to the knee.
Vampires respect the function of sex and fully appreciate the requirement for love in their relationships. They have an unspoken language of love in which they can request emotional or physical attention or affirm their feelings.
Next in this series on Love and Sex, I will return to that most powerful and least understood feeling of love and take a closer look at the vampire perspective.
